WHATS NEW WITH YOU???
The Bismarck High School Class of 1981 monthly update
Volume 17, May 2002
Having to write about the death of a classmate is a very hard thing to do, obviously the hardest thing I have had to write about in the past 17 months. I am so grateful for the network that we have created, but it became a double-edged sword when I felt the need to pass on the story that I sent you on the 19th. I love sharing the wonderful news in your lives, but sharing the story of a tragic death of classmate was much harder for me. I knew it was important to get the information to you right away, but it was very hard to push "send".
Kyle was a very nice guy; he was one of the many that have done an interview for me without even asking! In case you missed it, he was our guest interview for January of 2002. I remember him as a quiet, unassuming guy. Since I "found" him in 2000, we had communicated via e-mail, and had spoke on the phone once or twice. He had been forthcoming with me about the difficult days surrounding his divorce, his move from Fargo and I knew that he was attempting to create a new life for himself and his family in LA. I will miss his e-mails, and I will miss him at our next reunion, he had promised to come to the 30th!
I hope that all of you take a moment and remember his family and his friends during this very difficult time in their lives.
During this past month I have spoke with or heard from many classmates. All of you say the same thing, the newsletter has become part of your lives and you look forward to hearing the news of your classmates each month. Someone said she likes getting "reacquainted" with people that she barely remembers. One person said that he waits for the 1st of the month, he loves to see what everyone is up to! All of that makes my day! When Dan and I started this project 17 months ago we never thought we would become something that people "wait" for! I believe we ALL have created something very special in our class. We are no longer just classmates from 20 years ago, we have become friends, support people, and I believe from the e-mail that I receive, that we honestly all care about one another! What cool thing we have all created! I think we are a very lucky class!!
This month our newsletter includes an interview with Robert Fontenot, he just filled it out and sent it in! Love that! You will also find baby news, condolences, life happenings, everything! It is a big newsletter! An added bonus is the great report done for us by Todd Jueth. It is all about what is happening in Bismarck and at his house! He does have a request though maybe we should consider it a challenge!! Ready to step-up everyone?
Thank you to Scott Brandt who we highlighted last month. He was another person who just sent in an interview! Thank you to Wendy (Cleveland) Siegel, Dan R., for their continued support each month. And finally thank you to Kevin Nelson, who took the time to write us a great story of his wonderful trip to Africa! Many enjoyed the story and pictures!
Every month there are so many of you who send us life highlights, trivia, stories from home, "remember when" segments, pretty much anything I ask for! I thank all of you!!! It is wonderful to see where we are headed and it just gets better, and all because of you! Who knows, maybe Todds challenge will bring us even more news! Gotta love it!
Next month watch for Nadine Schaffer Morelli, a recent college grad. and the owner of a new home, which they just finished building this past winter.
Have a great month everyone! See ya, Lauri
Kyle Jonathon Frieze
Classmate and Employee Eulogies
One of Larrys Kessler memories - - - -
Kyle was quite shy in junior high (and high school), unless you knew him well. He was so shy on the subject of girls that he would oftentimes just talk about them for months before even saying hello. As one particular memory during eighth grade summer Kyle, Dan Schaner and I would frequently (very frequently) ride by one particular girl's house on our bikes. This was a summer long event. It also included his making sure we didn't miss her softball games or swimming competitions. We would do it over and over again just so he could maybe catch a glimpse of her as she would be coming home or leaving.
Just when Kyle would get the nerve to finally call her or say hello at the swimming pool, he would get so sick to his stomach from nerves that he couldn't do it. His admiration of this particular young lady came from too many Kristi McNichol conversations he, Dan Schaner and I shared that summer ("Eight Is Enough" was quite a hit because of Miss McNichol). He was convinced this girl was a Kristy McNichol look-alike. Kyle and Dan would jab each other back and forth as to which one would get her to date them first. As for myself, I kept quiet and enjoyed a fun summer of hanging out like kids used to (complete absence of Nintendo, laptops and the Internet), but both Dan and I knew that Jay Yeager was already talking to her on the telephone and had gone to a movie with her. :-) We (Dan and I) agreed to not tell Kyle because he was not one of those types of guys to take risks very often, putting himself in a position to be exposed emotionally, psychologically or physically. Telling him would have ruined the rest of his summer.
What great times those were. What a quiet, funny, caring person he was.
Sherri (Nordstrom) Driscoll wrote---
I worked with Kyle for a couple of years: approx. 1998-2000 at the hospital in Fargo,
and yes, we were both directors so had to work quite closely, and yes, he was completely
professional, worked long hours, detailed, and helpful to me on several of my
"schemes" to bring more revenue into that hospital. Of course, he was so
smart...got out while the going was good, and moved on to Tenet and I stayed on until the
hospital closed. He'll be missed by many and we are in shock, here in Fargo.
This was sent to me by one of the people who worked with Kyle at TenetHealth in LA. It gives us a wonderful glimpse of who Kyle had become! It was contributed by Cliff Loader, a Controller at Encino-Tarzana Regional Medical Center
In any professional career you meet quite a few people. Some you like personally, but dont consider them to be very good at their job, others you dislike personally, but greatly respect their professional abilities. Much more rarely, you find someone that is not only a very likable person, but they are extremely competent and dependable as well. Kyle Frieze was one such individual.
I had the honor of reporting directly to Kyle Frieze, our Assistant Chief Financial Officer, in my capacity as Controller here. In the year and a half that I had the pleasure of working with Kyle, I learned a great deal from him. He helped me to be better at my job, both on the technical side and in the area of my management skills. He always had time for my questions, no matter how busy he was, and he always understood if I had a personal issue that was clouding my mind on any particular day.
Kyle was well respected in the facility. I cant think of a single individual that didnt genuinely like Kyle. He was the most dependable person I knew. When he promised you something by a certain date, you could consider it done.
His absence creates an enormous vacuum here at the facility, both professionally and personally. The weeks and months ahead will be very hard for all of us here. However, we know that the void he left in our lives is nothing compared to the void he left in the lives of his family and friends. I had the pleasure of meeting his family and some close friends in North Dakota last week at the memorial service and I know now that Kyle had a very loving family and group of friends and was lucky to have known each of them.
I shall miss Kyle greatly. Vaya con dios, amigo.
OUR DOMAIN NAME
It is official; we now own our "bhsclassof81" domain name for the next year so, as long as those interviews keep coming in, and you guys keep on sharing the news, we will be here at least through 2003! ENJOY!!
"In-depth and Personal with
Name: Robert Fontenot
Career/occupation: Probation Officer
Family: Wendy Link-BHS 82, Libby(5), Abigale(2)
Spouses occupation: Program Director, Social Work
If applicable, how did you and your spouse meet? Wife was doing internship at my place of employment
Greatest accomplishments: Having two beautiful girls
People whom you admire and why: my wife, she puts up with me.
What do you have in your pockets: $3.25
Latest book you've read: "Mr. Brown Can Moo Can You"
Favorite music/musicians: Hard Rock/ Alice in Chains
Favorite foods: All Food
Hobbies/second career: Hunting and playing with my kids
What if any community service organizations are you involved with? Masons
Pet peeves: Too numerous to list
Memories of BHS (good ones): Orchestra tours
Favorite high school hang-outs: Desert
If you want to contact me, let Lauri know, she will connect us!
Chad Neff, the son of Tammy (Schlinger) Siems, will be graduating from BHS on May 26th. His future plans include attending college in Bottineau, and pursuing a degree in Forestry. The Bottineau program is a two-year program and from there he can transfer to NDSU, SD, MT, CO or WY to finish his last two years.
Rachael Bender, daughter of Paula McGarvey, will be graduating from
Jordan High School, in Minnesota in June 2002. She has enlisted in the
Army National Guard and will be leaving for Basic Training in September,
then off to her advanced schooling until Feb. 2003. Rachael plans to attend
college to pursue a career as a teacher the following year.
Amanda Carlson, daughter of Scott and Penny Carlson is graduating
from Fargo South High School on June 1, 2002. Her future plan
includes attending college at North Central College in Orange City, Iowa.
She is interested in pursuing a degree in Secondary Education and
being involved in traveling doing mission work around the world.
Brooke Nilles, daughter of Sue (Wheeler) Trim is graduating from
Nederland High School, Nederland TX on May 31. Her future plans include
an art scholarship to Lamar University for 2 yrs. and then off to Texas A & M
for pre-vet. She plans on following in her Grandpa's footsteps.
Nicole Wangler, the daughter of Ray and Joyce Wangler is graduating
from St. Marys Central High School on May 19th. Nicole plans to
attend BSC for the first year and then we shall see where the road leads her.
She plans to pursue a degree in psychiatry.
Matthew March, the son of Tammy (Pettis) Sine will be graduating from
High School, Las Vegas, NV. in June. He plans to go to college for Engineering, possibly at the University of Las Vegas.
Matthew William Becker, son of Dana (Scheck) Becker and Ray Becker, is
graduating in May 2002, from Richardton/Taylor High in North Dakota. He is college bound
and is presently pondering several letters of intent.
David Hodgin, son of Terri (Wilson) and Pete Hodgin, is graduating from
Henning High School in May 2002.
Adam Marsh, son of Shari (Janke) Schmit and Rick Marsh will be
graduating from Bismarck High School on May 26. He plans to attend
BSC and pursue a degree in computer science.
Congratulations to all of the students and to all of their parents!!!
Every time I close the door on reality
it comes in through the windows.
Happy Birthday to the following people,
all but two of them are celebrating their 39th birthday this month,
take note both Tom and Darryl are celebrating their 40th!
Also, Corrine Z. and Mary O. share the same birth date, they are also best friends,
do you think they have had some great birthday parties?
Actually I can vouch for it, they have!!!!
Ray (Kim) Horner
Sara (Jensen) Fritz
Karla (Bernhardt) Larson
Mary (Sweeny) Crompton
Mary (Schmidt) Ohlhauser
Corrine (McLean) Zerr
Brenda (Jundt) Gross
Tammy (Pettis) Sine
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO EACH AND EVERY ONE OF YOU!
We hope you have a wonderful day!
Megan (Gerboth) and Dean Affa 1 year
Lori (Ford) and John Moore 3 years
Kim and Karla (Bernhardt) Larson 9 years
Mary (Wolf) and Rich Dunn 10 years
Claire Gervais and Dave Blouin 11 years
Tim and Diane Jensen 12 years
Scott and Lori (Schneider) Westbrook 15 years
Dean and Debbie Wolf 17 years
Joe and Linda (Demke) Dietrich 18 years
Kathy (Nies) and Max Tschosik 19 years
Our sincerest congratulations to all of you!
Don Nelson is home from "somewhere in the world". He is
doing well and contemplating another four years with the Air Force. Didnt he mention
in his last update that he was contemplating retirement? He is also looking at a possible
transfer back to the East Coast.
He promises to keep us posted!!
One of our CHS classmates, Susan (Sease) Freebury has accepted a position
with the ND State Auditors Office. She is moving home after many years in Colorado! She is
excited about the move home but her son is a little nervous, but overall they think it
will all go just fine!
Claire Gervias has a "little" project that she works very hard on! It is called the Healthy Lawn Team. Below is a brief overview of what it is all about! If anyone wants a brochure or more info, just contact Claire, she would be happy to share it all with you!
When I was in college, I had a 38 year-old roommate who seemed like he had it
all-settled in his career, had great kids, was financially stable, and had the right kind
of passion to live and work for the cause. I idealized getting there and having that same
secure, settled feeling. Now that I'm "there", the opportunity for acting
locally has finally surfaced. Having read Theo Coborn's, "Our Stolen Future" a
few years ago, I got fired up about the human health and environmental effects of manmade
chemicals, especially pesticides.
Last year I ran into a few like-minded women in my neighborhood. We named ourselves the Westmorland Healthy Lawn Team (we are in the Westmorland neighborhood), made a brochure, wrote articles for our neighborhood newsletter, and went for the $1000 grant this spring. We produced an 8-page booklet and distributed it to each of the almost 900 households in our neighborhood and sent it to over 100 other neighborhood contacts. Now we are getting enthusiastic phone calls from all over Madison and Wisconsin from people interested in pesticide reduction for their own neighborhoods.
I have to give you a quick run down on why pesticides are so offensive to me and so many others. Higher rates of childhood leukemia, non-Hodgkins lymphoma, Immune System Diseases, birth defects, infertility, brain cancer, breast cancer, neurologic diseases, autism, learning disabilities, and ADHD have all been linked to pesticides. Kids play on the grass and even when dry, it actually penetrates the skin surface better getting into their developing and vulnerable bodies, having effects we will only know of in years to come. Cats and dogs are also effected, as are birds and butterflies.
Only after I was fully committed to this project did I learn that my old BHS friend Cindy (Froeschle) Duehring (BHS80) died years after she was poisoned by pesticides. Since then, I've heard more stories of people and pets effected by this stuff, and have begun to look for pesticides as a possible cause of symptoms in some of my patients.
I urge all of you to learn how to have a nice lawn without chemicals. My hope is that perfect lawns will fall out of fashion as we all learn new ways to kick the pesticide habit. Since I don't have room to get into how to get your lawn off chemicals, I'd be happy to send you a copy of our booklet and help any of you start a healthy lawn team in your own neighborhoods! With the momentum this project could have, perhaps one day we could all be part of "Healthy Lawn Teams of America", with the dream of a healthy future for our children.
Byron Weichel recently accepted a position with theU.S. Army Corp of Engineers
the world little one
THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS
Shelly (Gable) Kosteleckysson is having surgery this month in Rochester.
Our sincerest condolences to Donna Harris and her family.
Her mother, Margaret Harris, passed away in Fargo on April 7th.
Our sincerest condolences to the family and friends of Kyle Frieze.
He died on April 16th in Los Angeles.
Our sincerest condolences to Reid Perius and his family.
His father, Marvin Perius, passed away on April 26th.
BISMARCK NEWS AND HAPPENINGS
First of all I really enjoy reading the newsletter that you send out. (HERE IS YOUR CHALLENGE EVERYONE): I wish more classmates would write in so that we could read what's going on in their towns and lives. Anyway also the e-mail list that you have put out is really neat I have been in contact with a few people that I haven't heard from for a long time. Also have received some e-mails from people that I have forgot about, it's great.
In Bismarck, they are about to begin the State Street construction project. State Street runs from the top of 9th, which is the one way north, all the way to interstate 94; it is the heart of traffic that comes off the interstate to the city. It contains many businesses which will be impacted also it will provide a better road way for all the new businesses that have expanded north of the interstate. Which is also the second half of the project that will take place in 2003. In five years Wilton will be a suburb of Bismarck, my have we grown. It's all the big city people finding out the good life on the prairie and moving here.
Spring is here and for the fisherman the walleye bite is hot with limits being caught within an hour. The hot spots are Hazelton boat ramp area or you can run down river to the mouth of the Cannon Ball River and do very well from boat or land. Or you can just go to Fox Island; the nice thing about fishing at Fox Island is there is a pay phone and if you get hungry just call and have a pizza delivered.
My daughter Kelsey just completed her first Holy Communion on April 6th. And my other daughter Amanda broke her right hand little finger at school when a little boy in her class gave her a "love punch" and she put up her hand to block it. Not sure how many dates I would have got if I punched a girl to ask them out, but they are only 3rd graders. I guess we used to put an x on our hands to prevent us from girl germs.
A house burned down in Bismarck on April 14th. Now houses burn down all the time but the thing about this one was the people did not have a garage so they stored some propane tanks and a gas can in their basement by the water heater. Now I don't know about all of you but when I was a kid the fireman stopped by my school to show the class in this little model wood house what happens when you store combustible things in your house THERE IS GOING TO BE A BIG BANG AND YOUR HOUSE IS GOING TO BURN DOWN. Maybe the fireman did not stop by their school. That's all from me for now, c-ya have a great day.
YOU MUST BE FROM NODAK IF..
This came from Corrine (McLean) Zerr, how many of these can you
Fortunately I can relate to many of them!
You consider it a sport to gather your food by drilling through l8
of ice and sitting there all day hoping the food will swim by.
You have refused to buy something because it's too "spendy."
You are proud that your state often makes the national
news for being the windiest spot in the nation.
You think a basketball team consists of twelve white boys.
Your local Dairy Queen is closed from November through March.
You instinctively walk like a penguin for five months out of the year.
Someone in a store offers you assistance, and they don't work there.
(I do this all the time, drives my husband nuts! Now I know why! L..)
Your Dad's suntan stops at a line curving around the middle of his forehead.
You have apologized to a telemarketer.
You may not have actually eaten it, but you have heard of Lutefisk and Lefsa.
You have worn shorts and a parka at the same time.
You have either a pet or a child named "Jackson", "Ole" or "Lady".
Your town has an equal number of bars and churches.
You have had an entire telephone conversation with someone who dialed a
(I have done this also! L.)
You know how to say Ypsillanti, Cayuga, New Leipzig and Lake Sakakawea.
You grew up thinking rice was only for dessert.
You think that ketchup is a little too spicy.
You know who Sakakawea was.
Your daily meals are breakfast, dinner, and supper.
(People in WI. do not eat supper, they eat dinner at 5:00,
they have no clue what supper is! L.)
Every January, from age 2 to l3, you let your older siblings
talk you into putting your tongue on the iron post.
You consider Lime Jell-O a highly versatile food: a breakfast dish when
it is filled with fruit, a salad when it has shredded carrots and a
dab of mayonnaise, and a dessert when topped with Cool Whip.
You never had to rewind any part of "Fargo"
because you missed some of the dialogue.
You always believed that vacation meant "going up north."
Your town has an annual festival honoring a fruit, vegetable, or ethnic food.
The first time you saw "Grumpy Old Men," you thought it was a documentary.
You can recite, from memory, more than a half-dozen "Ole and Lena" jokes.
Your dog dies, your spouse leaves you, you lose your job, and your car
breaks down, all on the same day, and your first thought is, "It could be worse."
You don't think it odd that there is a heater in the outdoor Coke machine.
It's even 60 degrees warmer in your freezer than it is outdoors.
You have eaten "hot dish" and Jell-O salad in the basement of
a Lutheran church.
(Another ND thing, "hot dish", in WI it is a casserole,
no one knows what hot dish means. L)
You know why every car, truck, and tractor in North
Dakota has an electrical plug in extending from it.
You go to Starbucks, look at the menu, then say
"Umm...I'll just have some coffee, thanks."
You know why the snowmobile is the choice of winter transportation.
Remember when contributed by Claire Gervias
Remember when sleeping in meant 'til noon or 1 pm? Now 8 am is a luxury with the 6
year-old crawling in bed with us by 7:30, or the 18 month-old jumping up and down in her
crib chanting, "Maama!". Forget about not having the stamina, tolerance, or
interest in guzzling vast quantities of keg beer or jug wine all night at the Desert.
There is just no room in my schedule to sleep it off! Besides, I seem to have developed a
new Saturday night habit. Instead of cruising Main all night with the tunes blaring,
drinking some elixir in a McDonald's cup, I'm pleased to have my late night computer time
in peace, listening to public radio. As long as I don't knock my one glass of wine over
onto the keyboard!
New Phone, New E-Mail Addresses, and
We have received new e-mail addresses for the following people: Pam
(Eckroth) Schroeder, Toby Schatz, Tari (Andrusak) Fettig, Michelle (LaBere) Geierman, Jean
Walton, Debbie (Isaak) Dosch, DeAnn (Stack) Balanga, Michele (Gross) Ferguson, Lori
(Grishkowsky) Pettis, Lisa (Moser) Kienzle, Corjean (Glaser) Ressler, Duane Staus, Carla
(Schumacher) Kelsch, Pamela (Erhardt) Doll, Darrel A. Bosch, Dean Wolf, Jane (Bechtle)
and Rhonda (Levin) Mendieta.
We also have new postal addresses on Margret (Dockter) Chee, Mike Duffey,
Jane (Bechtle) Melchoir and Susan (Sease) Freebury.
If you would like any of the new info., contact me!
(For privacy reasons, I will not post that type of info. on this web page.)
We now have e-mail addresses for over 250 classmates,
if you would like to find someone let me know!
Sara (Jensen) Fritz-she is teaching in Detroit Lakes
LeAnn (Leben) Holkan
Karen (Oswald) James-she is still is Bismarck, can someone help?
Mary (Sweeney) Crompton,
If you guys are reading this could you please get in touch with me! Your addresses have changed, your phone numbers are disconnected or your e-mail boxes are full, thus I can no longer contact you. I am trying very hard to keep everyone in the loop and my information up to date! Thanks very much! Lauri
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